Surviving the Sexless Marriage Dilemma

Welcome to My Secrets Lingerie Blog, and thank you for coming here. My name is Sherri and I want to share with you the problems of a sexless marriage I have encountered. I wondered....How did we get to this boring sexless marriage?

After the I do's...slowly we got to a Sexless Marriage "Before we Realized It" and our marriages became in a rut. The everyday responsibilities of work and family took over our passions and desires. Then, we grew too tired for sex or the efforts to do anything about it. Day by day, week by week, year by year romance left my marriage.

Responsibilities such as making a living, having kids, running to ballgames always was the priority over keeping a romantic relationship in our marriages. I know in my dating relationship with my husband, it didn't start out that way, or we would have never needed up in the relationship in the first place much less married.

We started out with Attraction, Excitement, Passion, Desire, Communication for each other; therefore we had sex. Sex was our expression of love to each other. It was our embracing of each other and closeness. It was our secret line of communication and spontaneity that only the two of us shared.

It was pleasing, desirable, exciting, fun, risque', spontaneous and satisfying. Then, it slowly deteriorate. Unfortunately, a sexless marriage can lead to silence, unhappiness, depression, not feeling attractive, infidelity, boredom, sexual frustration, divorce and the list goes on and on. My marriage was suffering from several of these problems and I knew it. Therefore, I had to do something about it and stop the Sexless Marriage dilemma.

I admit, I became one of those I'm too tired wives. Thank goodness, I finally realized it. I was suffering with depression. I wasn't diagnosed with depression, but I knew I was suffering with it. I was not excited and or interested in sex. As a result, I began to feel unattractive and dressed the part in the bedroom. Tee Shirts was my summer lingerie and flannel pajamas was my winter lingerie.

I no longer owned any lingerie because it went out the window just like my sex drive did. I suffered and my husband suffered. After my husband suffered years of sexual frustration because I avoided, eventually sex became less important to him too. Then that lead to my insecurities, I thought, I was not attractive to him any longer. However, that wasn't really the case.

My husband was forced to accept my lack of sexual desire. Our happiness suffered. It was time to turn this romance in my marriage around, so piece by piece I started working to improve my sexless, boring and unhappy marriage. Let me tell you, if you ever want to overcome the Sexless Marriage Syndrome, you have to rethink what you want in your entire marriage, relationship and with your spouse. Number one...do you want this marriage and number two do you have the WANT TO get back to Romance in Your Marriage.

You have to reminisce about the attractiveness and passion from long ago and the person you fell in love with and married. I went to work on improving my desires, and my first thoughts were...Lingerie, Sexy lingerie would be a good starting point. It cost less than marriage counseling and it would make me feel better, would change the boring routine, and would enhance the mood.

Then, when I tried to go into public to shop for sexy lingerie, I ran into a terrible dilemma. I was too embarrassed to shop in public for sexy lingerie regardless how nice the department store or boutique was. All I could think was...what if someone I know is behind me in the checkout counter?

What if one of my teenage/grown kids sees me? Unfortunately, I would go home empty handed and my lingerie wardrobe was still tee's and flannel. Senario... my marriage continued to be sexless. Finally, I had it. I wanted a romantic marriage. I wanted my husband to be happy, and I wanted to be happy.

So, I went to work on the problem and opened up my own online lingerie store 2.5 yrs. ago. I knew if I felt insecure about shopping in public for lingerie I was not alone. I knew other women felt the same way I did, so I fixed that problem for all of us.

Being in a sexless marriage is painful and destructive. More importantly, it is exhausting, depressing, and unfulfilling for both spouse. Step-by-step my husband and I successfully restored sexual intimacy in our marriage. We discovered the underlying problem of our sexless dilemma and so can you regardless the crisis. Then, we applied new techniques within our marriage to completely regain love and rekindle sexual intimacy. Wow...it is possible and I want to share the secrets with you!!! If you want to turn your sexless marriage around....check out my new ebook at www.marriage-sexless.com

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Investing in an Intimate Lingerie Wardrobe to Spice Up Your Relationship

I bet you never thought of your lingerie as an investment. Often times, intimate lingerie is purchased strictly to wear for a special occasion or a special encounter and then it is never worn again.

Equally important, after the special occasion, the lingerie is not properly cared for. Your Lingerie is tossed to the side, or shoved in the drawer and never worn again. Then, one day while your going through your drawer, you pull out this wrinkled, less than attractive, piece of something that now has no meaning or significance then you discard it.

Lingerie is defined in Webster's Dictionary as 1. linen article or garment and 2. women's intimate apparel. When I think of linen, I envision fine, nice, and elegant. When I think of Intimate Lingerie, what comes to mind is elegant, sheer, sexy, delicate, and lace. The two definitions have a ring of "special" to them. Lingerie is certainly specialty pieces of clothing because it is very personal and intimate.

Therefore, when you purchase lingerie, treat it as an investment because it is special. Follow the washing instruction and treat your lingerie pieces with care. Hang your lingerie on nice hangers so the elegant pieces are properly stored and can be enjoyed again. Even go as far as covering the pieces in clear plastic clothing covers. As a result, the beauty and life of the lingerie will well exceed the money you spent on it.

Investing in an Intimate Lingerie Wardrobe is a pleasant enhancement to your relationship. Why...because you can create different styles of lovemaking encounters by the type of lingerie you wear.

For example, if you wear leather lingerie, you set the mood for a hot, heavy, I can't resist you any longer lovemaking encounter. However, if you wear a dainty soft elegant lace lingerie, you create a lovemaking encounter of slow intimate passion. Intimate Lingerie certainly Spices Up a Marriage or Relationship.

Therefore, investing in an Intimate Lingerie Wardrobe is an important compliment to your relationship. Not to mention, lingerie is an exciting change for your self-esteem. Get out of those frumpy pjs. Allow yourself the opportunity to feel alive and sexy.

You will be amazed what change from frumpy to sexy can do for you and your relationship....:) Equally important, lingerie is a pleasing gift to your mate. After lingering up, wow...unbelievable anticipation for what is inside the package.

Build a lingerie wardrobe piece by piece. You know... we build a clothing wardrobe to look pleasing to the outside world. But....what are we thinking....it is just as important to build a wardrobe for the bedroom.

Start caring for your lingerie properly so it will last and your lingerie wardrobe will grow. Therefore, you will have a selection of intimate lingerie to wear to fit the mood.

Then, whatever type of lovemaking mood you are in or you want to set, you can carry it out from the style of lingerie you wear. Changing up your package is very important. More importantly, change defeats the redundant predictable encounters in the bedroom that creates breakdown in intimacy between couples.

In additon, change is very important to keep the fire burning in the bedroom. We certainly do not like to eat the same foods over and over again because we grow tired to it. Therefore, it makes sense doing the same thing over and over in the bedroom kills desire for each other just the same.

Even when you just want a romantic evening cuddling and watching a movie without sexual activity, wear a satin pj set, a charmeuse teddy set, or rose lace chemise. These intimate lingerie pieces will heighten the cuddling pleasures of the evening and certainly make the time more romantic. In addition, you will feel good. Then, rest will come pleasantly afterwards.

Invest, surprise, and feel sexy....you won't believe the positive, quick and easy way to start spicing up your relationship today! Visit my online store for some great ideas..... http://www.mysecretslingerieandbodyproducts.com

Much Spice to You....
Sherri