Surviving the Sexless Marriage Dilemma
Welcome to My Secrets Lingerie Blog, and thank you for coming here. My name is Sherri and I want to share with you the problems of a sexless marriage I have encountered. I wondered....How did we get to this boring sexless marriage?
After the I do's...slowly we got to a Sexless Marriage "Before we Realized It" and our marriages became in a rut. The everyday responsibilities of work and family took over our passions and desires. Then, we grew too tired for sex or the efforts to do anything about it. Day by day, week by week, year by year romance left my marriage.
Responsibilities such as making a living, having kids, running to ballgames always was the priority over keeping a romantic relationship in our marriages. I know in my dating relationship with my husband, it didn't start out that way, or we would have never needed up in the relationship in the first place much less married.
We started out with Attraction, Excitement, Passion, Desire, Communication for each other; therefore we had sex. Sex was our expression of love to each other. It was our embracing of each other and closeness. It was our secret line of communication and spontaneity that only the two of us shared.
It was pleasing, desirable, exciting, fun, risque', spontaneous and satisfying. Then, it slowly deteriorate. Unfortunately, a sexless marriage can lead to silence, unhappiness, depression, not feeling attractive, infidelity, boredom, sexual frustration, divorce and the list goes on and on. My marriage was suffering from several of these problems and I knew it. Therefore, I had to do something about it and stop the Sexless Marriage dilemma.
I admit, I became one of those I'm too tired wives. Thank goodness, I finally realized it. I was suffering with depression. I wasn't diagnosed with depression, but I knew I was suffering with it. I was not excited and or interested in sex. As a result, I began to feel unattractive and dressed the part in the bedroom. Tee Shirts was my summer lingerie and flannel pajamas was my winter lingerie.
I no longer owned any lingerie because it went out the window just like my sex drive did. I suffered and my husband suffered. After my husband suffered years of sexual frustration because I avoided, eventually sex became less important to him too. Then that lead to my insecurities, I thought, I was not attractive to him any longer. However, that wasn't really the case.
My husband was forced to accept my lack of sexual desire. Our happiness suffered. It was time to turn this romance in my marriage around, so piece by piece I started working to improve my sexless, boring and unhappy marriage. Let me tell you, if you ever want to overcome the Sexless Marriage Syndrome, you have to rethink what you want in your entire marriage, relationship and with your spouse. Number one...do you want this marriage and number two do you have the WANT TO get back to Romance in Your Marriage.
You have to reminisce about the attractiveness and passion from long ago and the person you fell in love with and married. I went to work on improving my desires, and my first thoughts were...Lingerie, Sexy lingerie would be a good starting point. It cost less than marriage counseling and it would make me feel better, would change the boring routine, and would enhance the mood.
Then, when I tried to go into public to shop for sexy lingerie, I ran into a terrible dilemma. I was too embarrassed to shop in public for sexy lingerie regardless how nice the department store or boutique was. All I could think was...what if someone I know is behind me in the checkout counter?
What if one of my teenage/grown kids sees me? Unfortunately, I would go home empty handed and my lingerie wardrobe was still tee's and flannel. Senario... my marriage continued to be sexless. Finally, I had it. I wanted a romantic marriage. I wanted my husband to be happy, and I wanted to be happy.
So, I went to work on the problem and opened up my own online lingerie store 2.5 yrs. ago. I knew if I felt insecure about shopping in public for lingerie I was not alone. I knew other women felt the same way I did, so I fixed that problem for all of us.
Being in a sexless marriage is painful and destructive. More importantly, it is exhausting, depressing, and unfulfilling for both spouse. Step-by-step my husband and I successfully restored sexual intimacy in our marriage. We discovered the underlying problem of our sexless dilemma and so can you regardless the crisis. Then, we applied new techniques within our marriage to completely regain love and rekindle sexual intimacy. Wow...it is possible and I want to share the secrets with you!!! If you want to turn your sexless marriage around....check out my new ebook at www.marriage-sexless.com
Visit us at www.mysecretslingerieandbodyproducts.com Your Secret Lingerie Source -
After the I do's...slowly we got to a Sexless Marriage "Before we Realized It" and our marriages became in a rut. The everyday responsibilities of work and family took over our passions and desires. Then, we grew too tired for sex or the efforts to do anything about it. Day by day, week by week, year by year romance left my marriage.
Responsibilities such as making a living, having kids, running to ballgames always was the priority over keeping a romantic relationship in our marriages. I know in my dating relationship with my husband, it didn't start out that way, or we would have never needed up in the relationship in the first place much less married.
We started out with Attraction, Excitement, Passion, Desire, Communication for each other; therefore we had sex. Sex was our expression of love to each other. It was our embracing of each other and closeness. It was our secret line of communication and spontaneity that only the two of us shared.
It was pleasing, desirable, exciting, fun, risque', spontaneous and satisfying. Then, it slowly deteriorate. Unfortunately, a sexless marriage can lead to silence, unhappiness, depression, not feeling attractive, infidelity, boredom, sexual frustration, divorce and the list goes on and on. My marriage was suffering from several of these problems and I knew it. Therefore, I had to do something about it and stop the Sexless Marriage dilemma.
I admit, I became one of those I'm too tired wives. Thank goodness, I finally realized it. I was suffering with depression. I wasn't diagnosed with depression, but I knew I was suffering with it. I was not excited and or interested in sex. As a result, I began to feel unattractive and dressed the part in the bedroom. Tee Shirts was my summer lingerie and flannel pajamas was my winter lingerie.
I no longer owned any lingerie because it went out the window just like my sex drive did. I suffered and my husband suffered. After my husband suffered years of sexual frustration because I avoided, eventually sex became less important to him too. Then that lead to my insecurities, I thought, I was not attractive to him any longer. However, that wasn't really the case.
My husband was forced to accept my lack of sexual desire. Our happiness suffered. It was time to turn this romance in my marriage around, so piece by piece I started working to improve my sexless, boring and unhappy marriage. Let me tell you, if you ever want to overcome the Sexless Marriage Syndrome, you have to rethink what you want in your entire marriage, relationship and with your spouse. Number one...do you want this marriage and number two do you have the WANT TO get back to Romance in Your Marriage.
You have to reminisce about the attractiveness and passion from long ago and the person you fell in love with and married. I went to work on improving my desires, and my first thoughts were...Lingerie, Sexy lingerie would be a good starting point. It cost less than marriage counseling and it would make me feel better, would change the boring routine, and would enhance the mood.
Then, when I tried to go into public to shop for sexy lingerie, I ran into a terrible dilemma. I was too embarrassed to shop in public for sexy lingerie regardless how nice the department store or boutique was. All I could think was...what if someone I know is behind me in the checkout counter?
What if one of my teenage/grown kids sees me? Unfortunately, I would go home empty handed and my lingerie wardrobe was still tee's and flannel. Senario... my marriage continued to be sexless. Finally, I had it. I wanted a romantic marriage. I wanted my husband to be happy, and I wanted to be happy.
So, I went to work on the problem and opened up my own online lingerie store 2.5 yrs. ago. I knew if I felt insecure about shopping in public for lingerie I was not alone. I knew other women felt the same way I did, so I fixed that problem for all of us.
Being in a sexless marriage is painful and destructive. More importantly, it is exhausting, depressing, and unfulfilling for both spouse. Step-by-step my husband and I successfully restored sexual intimacy in our marriage. We discovered the underlying problem of our sexless dilemma and so can you regardless the crisis. Then, we applied new techniques within our marriage to completely regain love and rekindle sexual intimacy. Wow...it is possible and I want to share the secrets with you!!! If you want to turn your sexless marriage around....check out my new ebook at www.marriage-sexless.com
Visit us at www.mysecretslingerieandbodyproducts.com Your Secret Lingerie Source -
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